4 - Speaking The Truth in Love in The Church

The Church is Love


With the guidance of Scripture, conflict and hard conversations are an opportunity rather than a challenge. In this 26-minute session, Todd Wagner explains the power of speaking the truth in love and how healing and health can be brought to both your own walk with God and your relationships with those you are ministering to. Todd is Senior Pastor and Elder at Watermark Community Church in Dallas, Texas.



Ephesians 4:1-7 (ESV)

Unity in the Body of Christ

1I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called,2with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,3eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.4There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call—5one Lord, one faith, one baptism,6one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.7But grace was given to each one of us according to the measure of Christ’s gift.

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.


Todd said, "it is not a sign of sin that there is conflict. All sin does lead to conflict, but conflict itself is not sin. What you do with the conflict is what makes you a sinner or not." What is the conflict culture of your ministry? Is conflict viewed as something that is bad and to be avoided? Or is conflict seen as a healthy way to grow?
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Todd said, "conflict is an opportunity to glorify God, serve other people and grow us ourselves." In what ways have you seen this to be true in your life? What are some examples of this truth in your ministry?
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Todd asked some pointed questions that all leaders ought to answer in regard to their roles in the church. Are you certain that you are being used in God's Kingdom economy the way that God designed you? Is your team convinced of this?
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Todd said, "you're not loving somebody if you speak truth without love, but you're also not loving somebody if you speak words without truth." What are some specific things you can do to speak truth in love? Is there a particular person or group of people that you need to lovingly confront?
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Is your church equipped and able to speak to the controversial issues in a winsome way? Does your congregation refer to God's word and not man's opinion when faced with cultural issues? What can you do to equip people how to answer questions when attacked?
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Jeremiah 1:17-19 (ESV)

17But you, dress yourself for work; arise, and say to them everything that I command you. Do not be dismayed by them, lest I dismay you before them.18And I, behold, I make you this day a fortified city, an iron pillar, and bronze walls, against the whole land, against the kings of Judah, its officials, its priests, and the people of the land.19They will fight against you, but they shall not prevail against you, for I am with you, declares the Lord, to deliver you.”

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.



Christ is actively at work building His Church in the world today. Pastors and leaders in the local church have the privilege and responsibility to lead others in discipleship toward a mature faith in Jesus—a faith that courageously lives the gospel message at home, in the community, in the marketplace and beyond any geographic or cultural varrier—all for the glory of His Name.