Are You a Christian Nice Girl or God's Good Woman?

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In Jennifer Degler's book, No More Christian Nice Girl, she encourages women to avoid the doormat syndrome of trying to be nice for the people around them by instead being good for God. First, in this dramatic illustration, we will see some teenagers who understand this pressure to perform for the wrong audience.



Does the confusion and frustration sound familiar? Defining one's identity is difficult enough when we are mature and stable, but when a person is under constant pressure to perform, to live up to another's standard, and still not sure who she wants to be, then that stress can be overwhelming. In this video, Jennifer Degler speaks to women who live in that state of performance for the world around them.


John 12:43 (NASB)

43for they loved the approval of men rather than the approval of God.

New American Standard Bible, Copyright 1960,1962,1963,1968,1971,1972,1973,1975,1977,1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.

Typically, when you think of the Jesus that we are supposed to follow, what personality and character traits do you normally consider? After hearing Jennifer talk, do you feel there are there parts of Him that you sometimes neglect?
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In what area of your life do you feel the most compulsion to perform? For whom do you feel pressure to act this way? Is it for "niceness," or do you have something else that you feel pressure to fake?
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In what area of your life do you need to be more assertive? How will you do this while still maintaining godly kindness?
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Living for the approval of God will certainly mean that you won't find the approval of all people. Learn to be okay with that. It can be uncomfortable to assertively choose good if you are used to being a people pleaser, but the Lord's approval will do you infinitely more good.


If you are interested in learning more about Jennifer's concept of "nice vs. good," you can find No More Christian Nice Girl by Jennifer Degler here