How to Transition Well in Adoption

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Kristen Howerton is a psychology professor, blogger and mom to four, two of whom are adopted. She has had the benefit of her psychology training to help her family as they have grown through adoption, and she shares some of her best advice in this post. In the first video, she address the inevitable difficulty for the child who is suddenly part of a new and unfamiliar family.



Kristen gave the following pointers for parents who have an adoptive kid coming into their home.
  • Consider the amount of time you would need for bringing a biological baby home from the hospital, and try to take a similar amount of time off.
  • Do only one big thing a day.
  • Spend a lot of time at home getting to know each other.

Thinking about the age and background of your child, what are some things that you can do at home with your newly adopted son or daughter that will help with the bonding process?
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Which two or three new aspects of your child's life in your home will make for the hardest adjustment period?
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What can you do to help with the adjustment around each of these things you listed in the above question?
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Now that you have thought about the transitionary period for the child coming into your home, Kristen speaks to the adoptive couple. In this next video, she reminds the parents of the great importance of working on their own marriage.


What have you done so far to prepare for the new addition to your family? What should you do before the child comes into your home so that everyone can immediately begin to grow together as a close family?
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How will you make time to get away and work on your marriage?
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When your relationship as a couple is strong, what positive benefits does that pass along to your children?
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We all want low stress for our kids and rightfully look to reduce it when we can. Remember, though, as you bring these new children into your home and family that you not only have time to build up your own relationship, but that it benefits the whole family when you do.