Life Remains Messy after Reconciliation

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Adultery hurts. Pain exists for both husband and wife when there is an affair in a marriage. But, there is grace. Sarah Markley knows the pain of infidelity. In this post, she speaks about the lasting effects her affair has had on her marriage and the profound reality of God's grace in her marriage. Sarah is a wife, mother, and writer. She posts frequently on her own blog, as well as at (in)courage, A Deeper Story, and The Art of Simple.


Sarah explained that when she was confronted about her affair, she had a choice. She could have continued to live the lie, or tell the truth. Whichever side of infidelity you are on, what has been the most difficult aspect of hearing/telling the truth? What role has the truth played in your reconciliation?
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The grace that was extended to her by God and her husband was a grace Sarah never before experienced or understood. How has your experience and understanding of grace changed after infidelity in your marriage?
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Ten years after she ended her affair, Sarah noted that life remains messy. How far along in the process of reconciliation are you? How has the process differed from your expectations? How has it been harder?
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After experiencing so much grace, Sarah feels a calling to extend the message of grace over and over again. How do you think the Lord might be able to use you and your experience to minister to others in the future?
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Roland and Cynthia had a pretty good marriage and were active in their local church. Neither one thought their marriage could be hit by adultery. This candid real-life story illustrates how even a marriage broken by betrayal can be saved when both are willing to let God restore the relationship.



Towards the end of the video, Roland noted that the forgiving still continues. While there has been reconciliation, things are still not quite what they were before. Sarah's story, as well as Roland and Cynthia's, give a glimpse of the reality of a grace-restored marriage. Things won't ever be exactly like they were before the infidelity in your marriage, but you can have hope that God's grace can mend broken hearts and heal deep wounds.