Adoption, Birth Families and Hard Conversations

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Adoption is about both family and about redemption. Raising children is hard, no matter where they come from. Keeping contact with birth families is hard. Living our redemptive calling is hard. But all of these things are good. Troy and Tara Livesay, missionaries and adoptive parents, have thought about the myriad ways that Christian parents can have a great impact in all these areas, and they share them here.


What are the hardest of your kid's questions for you to answer with complete honesty?
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How do you determine your word choice and amount you disclose to your kids based on their age? Assuming you honestly answer them their whole lives, when do you transition from shallower understanding to "adult" answers?
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How could you use your children's own redemption story to teach them good theology?
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Troy and Tara have international open adoptions with two birth families. While it is very unlikely that you can have that kind of openness with families from other countries, you can learn about the redemptive benefit of holding an open adoption from their experience.



When you think about adoption, what seems to be (or has been) the most stressful aspect to you?
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When should you not involve birth parents? Do you think Christians should ever completely close the door on open adoption? Why or why not?
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Tara said that part of the adoption triad is their ministry to the birth parents. What are your thoughts about that suggestion? Do you believe that we as Christians have that responsibility?
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How can you involve your present children in the adoption the process? If you are considering an adoption, how much decision making or input will you give your children?
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Parenting is both joyful and stressful no matter where your kids come from. If you are somewhere in the adoption process, consider the redemptive aspect of this calling that God has given to you.