A New Vision for Marriage

Controlled by the Love of Christ


Pastoring is messy and requires the patience to enter into the brokenness of others. Many times, that brokenness involves crumbling marriages where spouses no longer desire to continue the marriage. How can pastors counsel a struggling couple? In this post created in cooperation with the Association of Biblical Counselors, Robert Cheong, Pastor of Care at Sojourn Community Church in Louisville, Kentucky shares how turning their attention to the love of Christ can offer them a new vision for their marriage.


What are some instances in which you have had to counsel a struggling couple? How successful were you? In hindsight, is there anything you would change about your approach? If so, what?
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2 Corinthians 5:14-15 (ESV)

14For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died;15and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised.

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.


How does the Apostle Paul describe the love of Christ, specifically in regards to the reason for which He died? In what ways does His example inform His followers of how they ought to live?
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If Jesus' love was displayed through selflessly laying down His life for our good, how would putting that truth into practice change a struggling marriage? What hope does it offer for their future relationship?
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In light of this discussion, what changes could you make to your current counseling practices to give couples a hopeful vision for their marriage? How could you further emphasize the selflessness of Christ as a model of freedom for their relationship?
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When a marriage struggles, spouses tend to focus on one another as being the source of their problems. Over time, that focus will destroy any desire they have to continue with one another. For those struggling in your midst, strive at helping them to see the model of Christ. Help them to see a vision for their marriage that is sanctified and restored through God's gracious care.


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