Singleness in the Church

Don't Put Your Life on Hold


What words of encouragement do singles need to hear, and how can the church minister more effectively to them? At the 2012 Gospel Coalition Women’s Conference, Carrie Sandom, Lydia Brownback, and Jenny Salt encourage singles not to put their lives on hold and invite churches to be more inclusive of singles in their ministries. Carrie Sandom is Associate Minister for Women and Pastoral Care at St. John's Church in Tunbridge Wells, UK. Lydia Brownback is the author of A Woman's Wisdom, Legacy of Faith and Fine China is for Single Women Too. Jenny Salt is Dean of Students at Sydney Missionary and Bible College. 


If you’re single, what is difficult about being single? If you’re not single, what do you think would be difficult about being single?
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Carrie said that singleness can be liberating. In what ways can you imagine singleness being liberating? What could it potentially liberate someone from?
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Do you agree that the church struggles with what to do with singles? Why or why not?
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If you’re single, what are some ways you can strive for contentment and live your life to its fullest, even without a spouse and family?
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Why do you believe God can be trusted, even if He hasn’t given you or someone you know a spouse yet?
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What can the church do to better minister for singles? Are you willing to be a part of the change? Why or why not?
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Singleness can be a challenge, painful, or very liberating. What’s important to remember in the church is that God always does good in the lives of His people—married or single. Take some time to think and pray about the unique needs of those who are single and how you might be able to offer them more encouragement or support.   


For more information about the Gospel Coalition Women’s Conference, click here.