Is a Good Pastor a Bad Parent?

Three Best Practices


Pastors dedicate hours upon hours to the church. In the midst of the busyness of ministry, pastors who have families also have to take care of their children. Some believe that good pastors can’t also be good parents, but is that assumption true? Church leaders Joshua Harris, Kent Hughes, and Voddie Baucham sit down to discuss best practices of pastors who are also parents.


Joshua Harris is the author of a number of books and is most widely known as the author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye and he also previously served as the Senior Pastor of Covenant Life Church. Rev. Dr. R. Kent Hughes is Professor of Practical Theology at Westminster Theological Seminary in Glenside, Pennsylvania. Voddie Baucham currently serves as Pastor of Preaching at Grace Family Baptist Church in Spring, Texas.  



Three principles highlighted by the speakers about parenting as a pastor include: 

  • Faithfulness, not perfection
  • Prayer
  • Not contradicting in actions and instruction 

Which of the three principles stand out to you the most? Why? Which ones are you doing well in? Where do you see room to grow?
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Kent said, “Ministry is a character profession and your character is going to be seen in your nearest and dearest relationships.” Do you see this as true in your own life? How has your family seen your character at home?
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Voddie pointed out the lack of the father and husband roles in our culture. How do you see our culture influencing husbands and fathers? Does it affect the men in your church? If so, how? How do you address this issue as a pastor?
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What steps could you take this week to implement faithfulness, prayer, and consistency in your home? How could you minister to other parents in your congregation this week?
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Set aside intentional time in your week to pray specific prayers for your family. Pray for your children by name, for their activities and friends, their futures, and their faith. Be consistent as you correct and instruct your kids. Apologize when you mess up. Allow God to grow you as you lead your family. 


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