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2014 Peace of Mind Conference


When mental illness takes your child from you, how do you know you can live another day? In this 45-minute message from the 2014 Peace of Mind Conference, Kay Warren shares her personal story of loss due to mental illness and offers biblical truth to encourage others who suffer senselessly. 


Kay Warren is an international speaker, bestselling author, Bible teacher, and advocate for orphaned children as well as those living with mental illness and HIV and AIDS. Kay and her husband, Rick, co-founded Saddleback Church. Their son, Matthew, suffered mental illness and took his life in 2013. 




This is such a powerful and honest message of hope. Kay shared three truths we know whether we’ve lost someone, are hurting, or just want to help those who are hurting:

  1. Life doesn’t make sense, but we can have peace because we know God loves us and is with us.
  2. Everything on earth is broken, but we can have joy because we know God has a greater plan.
  3. Life is a battle, but we can have hope because we know there’s more to the story.
Notice that each truth begins with something difficult or unsettling but ends with something hopeful. The first part of the sentence is based on the world and life circumstance, but the second is based on what we know about God. 

What difficult personal experiences come to mind when you hear these three truths?
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Kay said that we are often confused, and we don’t have the explanations we want from God. Describe a time when you felt confused during a time of suffering and what questions you had for God.
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Isaiah 43:1-2 (ESV)

Israel’s Only Savior

1But now thus says the Lord,

he who created you, O Jacob,

he who formed you, O Israel:

“Fear not, for I have redeemed you;

I have called you by name, you are mine.

2 When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;

and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you;

when you walk through fire you shall not be burned,

and the flame shall not consume you.

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.


Isaiah 43:2 tells us that when we inevitably go through hard times, God is with us. Share a time when God brought you peace and assured you He was with you.
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Romans 8:28 (ESV)

28And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.


Romans 8:28 assures us that God actually brings good out of our suffering. What good have you seen God bring out of your brokenness?
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Kay has lived through immense tragedy, and yet she still says it’s possible to choose joy. What are ways that you choose joy daily?
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Romans 5:3-5 (ESV)

3Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance,4and endurance produces character, and character produces hope,5and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.


“Hope doesn’t disappoint.” In what ways have you known this to be true?
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Kay said that we always face a choice in life: we can trust God, His love, and His promises, or we can curse Him and declare He’s a fake, a tease. We can also give God an out and blame ourselves for all pain and suffering.  

Describe a time you struggled with these two options in your faith. What was the end result?
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Don’t you love the story of Kay’s hope box and music playlist? She used them to fuel her hope while her son was still living, but then she wasn’t limited to their Scriptures, prayers, and songs once Matthew died. Now she’s rebuilding her hope in new ways and embracing a struggle to understand God and His mystery.  

What hope in you has died? In what ways do you need to rebuild that hope? What practical things can you do or make—like Kay’s hope box—that will help you?
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Matthew 19:26 (ESV)

26But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.



Kay encouraged audacious faith, and she believes there will be a glorious unfolding of all that God has promised. Take a minute to imagine your future after a lifetime of trusting God. 


For more information on the Peace of Mind Conference, visit peaceofmindtyler.com.